I cannot count the years that I started out the new year making resolutions about all the changes I wanted to make, i.e. lose weight and get into better physical shape, only to lose momentum a few months later. In my experience, New Year’s resolutions do not work. So the questions is, what do we need in order to accomplish our goals, fulfill our dreams and make lasting positive changes?
In both my professional and personal experience, we cannot make changes with out some form of help. Their are many different forms of help including but not limited to friends, family, mentors, coworkers, counselors, life coaches and spiritual advisors. Sometimes we need a whole team with each source of help filling a different role. Many times when we are feeling stuck it is because we don’t have the help we need. Many of us grew up hearing the message from our families and society that we should be able to do life all by ourselves. So we become very self-reliant often struggling with reaching out and asking for help. And sometimes we do not even realize that we need help. In turn, we blame ourselves for being stuck.
Be open to changing your perspective on getting help. Some people view needing or wanting help as a personal failure or a sign of weakness. Some view it as help to get fixed because they are broken. I believe that people are not meant to do life all by themselves. Help can be a positive experience like playing a team sport. Only the game is life.
The good news is that you are not to blame for feeling stuck. It is not a personal failure. Just spend some time alone thinking and dreaming. Try to connect with your self and your desires and dreams. Ask your self what do you want out of life? Writing it down helps this process too. For some of us, this process is not easy. But that’s OK because we are worth it. And the possibilities are endless!! After you figure out what you want, all you need to do is to reach out and ask for help. The right help will be able to work with you to identify any blocks that keep you from attaining personal growth, and achieving your goals. The right help will also give you the support you need.
Imagine if you could have all the help you need to fulfill your dreams and make positive lasting changes. Imagine if you could grow personally and professionally. The truth is you can! Just carefully chose where you put your energy and your attention. You can chose to put your attention and energy on you and your life and making it the best life it can be. We only get one life to live. So how do you want to live yours?